In the Bible, God hardens the hearts of those he wishes to destroy. I assume the Hebrew word “harden” means to make stubborn, or impervious to influence, unwilling to bend or adapt to new information. A hard heart is determined, set in its ways, unable to change.
And while this is always described as a bad thing, I believe I could use some heart-hardening. Maybe, at the least, I’d like a heart which is solid.
When a relationship undergoes catastrophic failure, this is similar to a death. There are stages of grief, which I don’t have memorized, but I assume they include bargaining, sadness, and anger, all of which I have experienced.
It is interesting to me how our legal system regards a massage over clothes to be “rape,” but breaking up with someone is free-game. Personally, I’ve been molested by the TSA, and it was fine. An ugly fat man grabbed my penis and squeezed it, then let go. I was quite furious for a few hours — then I got over it.